I`m sorry, but your husband is really ridiculous. If this marriage was for a family member, would you go to rehearsal? Sounds like you to me, so why would it be any different? And doesn`t he understand that it`s “if you want to see, they`ll come here” is a two-lane road? That`s ridiculous. He doesn`t like your family? It seems to me that there is something bigger here. Why is he going to drive 45 minutes, but not an hour and a half? Until you drive 45 minutes, it seems to me that 45 more are not much. A lawyer cannot represent her and your spouse. It is called a conflict of interest and it is contrary to the rules of the Law Society of British Columbia. You need your own lawyer. See What is independent legal advice? to learn more about it. Now we fought non-stop, neither ready to defend and his build of resentment in me, but I`m not ready to waver in this, because family is important to me and I`ve compromised things in the past. Every time I want to spend time with my family, it`s a great fight, because they`re at 1.5 hours, compared to 45 minutes with him.
We`ve been doing advice, said the counselor, that when it comes to our families, we can all make our own decisions, so when he decided not to give any more Christmas gifts to his nieces (6-8y/o) because he thought it was useless, I had to participate and not fight, but if I want to spend $20 each for my nieces and nephews, he makes it a great fight. Some mediators are lawyers, but they cannot give you legal advice, but only general information about family law. If you have children, the Mediator helps you make decisions that are in the best interests of children. But that doesn`t mean that to have an affectionate and permanent relationship with your partner, you`ve looked at 100% of the time. “It`s always normal and healthy to have disagreements in a relationship – disagreement is not a problem, but how we disagree to determine the state of the relationship,” says Kelsey Latimer, PhD, CEDS-S, assistant director at the Center for Discovery in Bustle. “If we are open to the idea of hearing from the other person, keeping away from the treatment of the past and not marking the person in disagreement, then disagreement can be a sign of health in a relationship and a separation between the two people.” On a practical level, what happens after mediation can vary considerably from case to case.